Relationships are too much work?

Why do relationships have to be so much work. Can't they just be peaceful cutting out the arguements. Focusing less about the negatives. Too many relationships are unhealthy.Relationships are too much work?
They can be frustrating...


1) If people carry emotional baggage, there can be clashing, almost like a kindling of logs, which creates a fire.


2) Sometimes stressful situations take a toll on relationships.


3) Sometimes our personalities aren't designed to handle that type of intimacy.





Everyone is different, but I think the key to it is getting help from a therapist to identify behaviors or stressors that are preventing you from having a healthy, enjoyable relationship that is not an emotional burdon.Relationships are too much work?
I know, right?
A good relationship should not be ';too much work.'; If it is that hard, it probably isn't right.
Why should it be easy? The grass doesn't cut itself. Why should long-term companionship be effortless?