You can work DBT if it's available where you live. You've got a tough road ahead if the diagnosis is accurate. Folks with BPD actually do a lot better outside of relationships, and tend to have a hard time having lasting or happy relationships with non-borderlines.
I used to be married to a borderline who didn't work on her disorder, and used to belong to a support group for non-borderlines that allowed borderlines to join, and there was at least one couple with two borderlines in it that was struggling along. But it will be a struggle.
If you're able, against all odds, to take responsibility for your actions, to take therapy seriously, to take any meds you may need - antidepressants and mood stabilizers are often important just as they are for bipolar disorder, oddly - and if you can find a good DBT group, I think that's your best chance.
Especially the DBT. I've heard great things about it from borderlines who did it.Borderline personality disorder relationships?
Wow, only 2% of the population has that, did you know that? I have it. You learn about your condition, realize the times you are reverting between the kid and adult. A lot of it is solved just by the fact that you know what your problem is. A lot of these people do fine later in life in stable relationships with routine. Do research and talk to each other, realize when you are throwing a fit. You can definately tell when she is reverting because she will get into her stuffed animals. REFUSE TO DEAL WITH THE CHILD. You will have to raise the child within. You have a fully functional adult in there, who better to raise the child than you? DO NOT LET THE CHILD DRIVE YOUR LIFE. You will spend half of your time cleaning up the mess the child makes. Just save time by refusing to let the child be in charge. Since you will see this in each other, you can help each other. It sounds like quite a challenge, but you can do it.
That's okay your not a lone a lot of us have the problem, seek some help if you need to. (Or you can introduce them to each other, just kidding) Really! if you can't solve the problem on your own then Yes seek some help and try doing it naturally with herbs and change your eating habits too it could be just both your diets and eating habits, or a chemical in-bounce. Try taking fish oil, vitamins, herbs, %26amp; minerals this came cause the body to go Thur some weir changes too read up on it. Good luck. This is what happen to me I had to change my eating habits and diet, it was go though the changes and a chemical in-bounce and stay away from drinking alcohol this will cause these reaction a lone. Good luck to you both and I pray things work out for the two of you.
counseling. I was married to a narcissist for 15 years. If he had gotten counseling we may still be married. Don't ever forget that it is your problem and no one elses. they don't deserve to be treated poorly just because you have BPD. You will have to work twice as hard to maintain relationships as others may.
I am glad that you are recognizing it and not denying the problem. Good luck.
Sounds like a cop out to me! Stop all the lying and start taking responsibility for YOUR actions!
Ask a therapist. She could tell you.
after briefly reading a blurb on BDP, i wonder who doesn't have it?
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